Parker Family

2007-07-31T06:46:00.000-07:00

I am very sorry for not updating this blog. One night, I had so many things to write and on the other night (like now) when I am in front of the computer screen, I am clueless what to write about. I honestly have been so busy and many of my friends and family has been chasing me for updates. Sorry again.

I have been busy for migration. Unfortunately, there are some hiccups with the sale of the restaurant - and by which, I concluded I am not sure if I can return Singapore in September for permanent migration. It will definitely be this year. Worse to worse case scenario, my family will be returning to Singapore regardless for Hari Raya Aidilfitri this year.

Good news is my husband has obtained his Singapore Permanent Residency status - I know of applicants who applied repeatedly for years and was constantly rejected. Even today, as I have a small chat with a Singapore Chinese lady who was the teller at my local bank, she told me of her story. Her 2 kids and herself were Singaporean, but her husband's (who was a tennis coach) PR Application was rejected. Eventually, they migrated to Melbourne and built a life here. This was 20 years ago. After hearing such experiences, I was relieved, at how fast and smooth Paul's application was. And not to mention, my son's citizenship approval was instant.

Irfan, my handsome baby boy is now 13 weeks old. He measured 60 cm long and 5.5 kilos in weight. He enjoys watches TV and talks more than ever. You are so cute my son, when I asked you why you did not want to sleep, you just look me in the eye and give me a smile! I went back to my in-laws place last weekend, and spent some time there. They were excited hearing Irfan speak and amazed at how much he has grown since they last seen him 5 weeks ago. Paul is reading up on toilet training at the moment, and we think Irfan is ready to be toilet train soon. Paul reads to him every day, and speaking to a child will only encourage him to vocalize. Irfan loves being on his tummy, and each time we do that, he moves his legs and hands as if trying to crawl. He is not ready for crawling yet, but definitely he can start to roll to the sides. You develop so fast my son, soon you'll never stay put !

I was considering options on how Irfan is to be taken care of when I get to Singapore starting next year. He will be about 8 months then, whether I should hire a maid, send to a babysitter or drop him off at the childcare. I wanted my son to be in a place where he learns and be interactive, and in an environment, I am confident will be safe. It is hard to separate from my son in near future, but I do have some goals to achieve for the year 2008. For my personal achievements. I did not want my son to go to a school (if he does) someday, and tell the teacher the good things about what my husband is working as, and one word to describe what his mom is doing - "housewife". I got some business plans for Singapore laid out, and hoping it will be as what I expected it to be if not better. Of course, nothing will work if you don't put hard work into it, so means investing time. I was just planning to send Irfan to a childcare for 5 hours a day for 5 days for him to mix with other people and of course, play and interact. Erna, my friend send Salleh, her 10 month old son to a childcare and he loves it. She told me, he did not even bid her farewell when she drop him off because he was so looking forward to go in and play. Maybe it will work for Irfan too. I did not want my son to be too attached to only Paul and me - I wanted him to be sociable and extrovert.

I have some videos of Irfan and my husband is putting it on the computer. I promise I'll put it up when it is ready. You'll definitely love this one. Next entry - promise!

I had a weird dream as I woke up this morning. In my dreams, I was a teacher in Singapore, and I was offered to go on an expedition to the other parts of the world (mostly in forests and seas) with the school for 6 years and not coming home. Irfan was still as young as he is, and my husband was in Singapore with me. The day I was meant to go, my grandparents, parents and family sent me off. I was happy to learn through this new experience and I thought to myself that 6 years was not very long. It was pictured now but the atmosphere looked like some time in the early century - when people travelled by sea and not airflights and forms of communication were poor (no Hp). After the expedition was over, we were all set to go home. I remembered being in this ship to return home - the ship were among the thousands in the open black sea in the shipyard. I was so happy to return home - after spending so long at sea, in forests and away from home. Sailing to home took about approximately 3 months. I filled up an immigration card which stated the date at that time. I knew there have been some delays in my expedition to finish but unexpectedly to my shock, it wrote there the year at 2048 - and which means I have been gone for 30 years. I asked the other teacher next to me, but she was not very sure of the year. We have spent so long camping through forests that we lost track of civilisation. It feels like the world spins even faster before we know it. But this teacher said that she got information that my parents and grandparents were dead, my son has grown old, and my husband spends his old age cutting hair in a barber place. My heart sank. I regretted going on an expedition on the account of selfishness to gain experience, when 6 years was dragged to 3 decades. I missed Irfan so much, cos when I left he was still a baby and I wondered if he still recognize me. I have not spoke to my husband since I left and he must have presumed I was dead. And I was not by my parents and grandmother side when they departed.

I felt that I missed them so much, my whole journey home was full of regrets, and I regretted not seeing my son grow, develop bonds & strengthening them, and collecting memories before my ancestors left. It was a terrible remorse. I regret separating from my husband and my son whom I love very much. I cried all through 3 months on the way home. I did not make it home - I woke up from sleep. And my husband was in front of me, saying good morning beautiful. I held his hand, and my son with the other, and I said to him, please don't leave. I told him about the dream I had, and he smiled thinking it was just mind games. It is, I knew it was not true. But the feeling it left me with, is still wondered upon till now. I will never forget that dream, and I understand how difficult separation can be, and how depressing regrets can bring.

I love you Paul Parker. It was a week ago, when I spend a late night watching our wedding video as you snuggled up in bed. I wanted to imagine myself on that wedding day of ours again. It is still magical. I saw your look, and how content you were to start our lives together and how lucky I was to have found you. It has been 20 months of marriage - nothing much between us have changed - except that I need you more than ever. Irfan and me.

2007-07-13T07:46:00.000-07:00

ICA contacted us asking for further documentation to support Paul's PR Application. I've got them faxed and explained why we can't hand it in person, cos we are living in Australia. I hope that should suffice to pre-approve him entering Singapore as a permanent resident. Also, my son (who is a Singapore citizenship) is eligible for the Singapore baby bonus. That's great as we intend to save it for his future. It's quite a huge sum in his bank account soon despite him being just two months old - from the Australia Baby Bonus, Singapore Baby Bonus. In fact, Australia government even give me some maternity payment allowance as I am not a working mom. I intend to save it all up and put into Irfan's bank account. Alamak, macam gini, Irfan bank account in fatter than mine!

It's about 6 weeks to go before I have vacate this apartment and hand over my restaurant to its new owner. Will be spending some time at the farm with the in laws as we wait for the date of departure. I have not bought the tickets yet as am waiting on my husband's permanent residency. Only then, we can apply for a one way trip. I have sent email to the Australian International School in Singapore as I heard they prefer Australians teachers and their remuneration is much better than Singapore government schools. If my husband can't get a profession with A.I.S., then he'll settle with M.O.E. I am counting down to coming back to Singapore, and I have applied for a rented apartment from H.D.B. so I'll have a roof over my head in the meantime while Paul settles in his new job, and as we hunt down a home for ourselves. We are eyeing for an executive mansionette perhaps in Bedok, Simei or Tampines. I have always been associated with the east and that's the preferred location for where I call home.

Sometimes in this married life, I have given some thoughts to memories about my singlehood 3 years ago - that is, before I even have a serious thought of marriage in my head. Anyways, as you may know how matured I was to be working and travelling at young age. Yes, I was dead serious in work! (and tutoring) So busy that I missed out on many things youngsters consider fun today. I did club a few times (which can be count by my fingers) - not much, with friends and most of the time, when I did, I didn't remember having so much fun. Not the company. but the atmosphere. Other times, when I did enter clubs, are usually business purposes, where my overseas counterparts affiliates are in town. Every weeknight after work when I didn't travel, I went straight to students' home to teach as much classes as I can possibly fit. What was I missing out?

I hardly been to common places even like Tampines Mall. Basically cos I didn't have the time, and I did my massive shopping when I possibly have time, is usually overseas. The only sport I played after I left school was golf at the Jurong Country Club and I have thoughts of taking up tennis! The only time I dyed my hair is for it to become blacker than ever. Somehow as I was growing up, having blackest of black hair makes me look ehem.. jambu. (that was then, I am not now) I have never did manicure and predicure in my life. Last year was the first time I own my own digital camera. I never use a USB and if you give me an Ipod or MP3, I'll go, huh? I have absolute no clue how to download music. I always have been using phones to call or sms - My preference are phones without gadgets or functions like camera, video, er.. no thanks! And what the hell is Bluetooth? The only accessories I wear are gold. Before I got married, I did not cut my hair for 5 years. Which means, I am not a regular to the saloon. My husband cut my hair last year April after I fell into depression, I was not combing my hair and it became the biggest dead knot I have ever seen. My husband gave up on my hair. I maintained a one hole per ear. There are so many more, that I do not have to explain and you could already what kind of person I am - to simplify in one word - BORING !

Well, I am trying not be a boring mom to Irfan though. Speaking of my beloved one, he is turning 11 weeks this Tuesday. Phew, the clock ticks so fast and as it seems, Irfan is getting smarter and smarter by the days. This past week, he has been chatting too much until I gave up on him. You're too talkative, Irfan. Girls will be put off that way, you know. Anyways, his intelligence is amazing - that I can't deny. Paul & I are planning to buy this massive world map to be attached onto Irfan's bedroom wall in Singapore later so he can learn the countries and world's famous cities as he is growing. It will cost us USD $250 inclusive of freight from the United States. Definitely worth it.

Paul has been busy with a game he downloaded from the internet - which teach you step by step to be a pilot, fly a virtual plane on real streets. He even bought a joystick (without my permission) to make his playtime more fun! He's glued to the computer and I have been the one changing Irfan's nappies now. He has intentions to pursue a pilot's license with the Flying School in Singapore.

Business this week is so quiet like never before. It's times like this, that makes me feel glad I am finally selling the business. Don't get me wrong, last week for example was really good, there are just some shitty weeks in this industry which are unpredictable, but still something you need to tolerate. At least, I have made myself some good profit selling it away and I do have plans to start something in Singapore. Just plans for the moment - especially since Irfan is still very young.

I spoke to someone about hiring a maid and realise just how cheap it actually is. I have thoughts if hiring one next year even if I am a housewife. She is to help me with the chores whilst I can concentrate on Irfan. Later on in the years, I need to be really busy educating Irfan as he will be home-schooled. But hiring a maid, means there is no more privacy at home, and it's a big deal for me to give that up considering we have live on our own since we got married. So perhaps - no?

The fasting month is coming. I didn't manage to fast last year as I was pregnant. As some of u may know, Irfan's while in the womb, takes a lot of nutrients out of me, and if I did fast, I think I could be admitted into hospital due to dehydration and starvation. So that was why I missed fasting last year. I intend to, this year but I am breastfeeding. I should try a few days and see how it goes. If I end up fainting, I might not fast this year. But insyallah, I'll get through and yet making sure I eat well so Irfan will not be deprived of the nutrients he require. Another 7 more months to go, before I finish breastfeeding.

Breastmilk is the best source of nutrient for a developing baby. I have nothing against those who fed their babies with formula for whatsoever reason, but for those who would like to know more, I hope they understand that breastmilk is the most valuable gift you can give to your baby. And as long as you have the will and capacity to breastfeed, please do. The first year after a baby is born is when his/her immune system develops. Immune systems helps the child to be immune to diseases making them strong, healthy and hardly or never fall sick. This developing immune system will last them their whole life. If you breastfeed them, their immune system will develop so well that even after they finish breastfeeding, they are strong enough to fight any diseases they may pick up till they die. That is how essential breastmilk is to a baby not for short term only, but for long term. If you read up on the internet or books about what the breastmilk contains, you'll be amazed at the nutrients in them that no formula can match. That is Allah's gift to you to give to your child. And once I read, even when the babies are born premature and require more nutrients that a full term baby does, the breastmilk of the mother is regulated and produced by the body to such that it provides the exact nutrients the premature baby needs. Isn't our body amazing, that's why they say, mothers knows best!

As long as your baby is breastfeed, it will be hard for him/her to catch even flu. If he is in a confined area where bacteria lurks, make sure you are there too. So if you capture that same bacteria in yourself, your bodies will produce antibodies to fight these bacteria and these antibodies will be transferred to your child via the breastmilk, and he/she too can fight the same bacteria at ease and will not fall sick. Keep your newborns near you, moms.

There is so much about baby development. My husband is an avid reader, and he always explains to me for the things he decide to do, for me to eat, or for Irfan. He is knowledgeable about pregnancy and baby's development more than me, and his guidance is priceless. Thank you Paul for giving me this healthy bub, who is never a worry.

2007-07-08T07:09:00.000-07:00

That's Irfan when he was born. I went around viewing other people's profiles who had newborn photos on them, and I looked back at Irfan's. I am so happy my son has grown this big, this fast but yet, I miss him so much when he was a newborn. He was so beautiful. Like every mother, to me, my son is the most beautiful newborn I have ever seen. Would you agree with me?

He is born through Ceasarean, which doctors claimed stress-free for the baby compare to normal delivery, and the good thing about this mode, is that Irfan head is not squeezed or squashed, and he looks so perfect - stress free mah? Though I remember minutes before the delivery, the doctor told me sometimes the newborn gets shocked as he was not expecting to come out yet. Heh.

Back then, he was still so shy to open his eyes and he looked so arrogant whilst his daddy gives him endless kisses and cuddles. His strawberry pink cheeks compliments his very fair skin, and when I first saw his eyes open in the operating theatre, it melts me to see those beautiful colors - shades of blue and grey.

In my mind, I was still questioning myself. Is he really mine? Did he just came out of me? Is he suppose to be this beautiful? I was expecting a cute baby, but him being so beautiful is something I don't know how to accept. God, I don't deserve this beautiful creation of yours, yet your perfect gift to me, is something I'll treasure till my very last breath.

I miss those 3 days I spent at the hospital with Irfan. During the day, my husband would come by at 7 in the morning to spend time with bub and me, and stayed till late. We took bub for a walk the very next day after I had my Caesarean, around in the garden behind the hospital where Irfan can get some sunlight and fresh air. And by night, as my husband leaves, I be left with Irfan by my side, and as I looked at this precious little one, I cannot believe my eyes. My tears that flowed that very night by the hospital bed still run sometimes when I look at Irfan today. He is mine, and nothing can change that fact. And oh, I am the most luckiest mother in the world. I waited for an offspring since the day I got married, and failing once did die my hopes to have another. But I fight the demons causing my depression, and at the end of a 9 month wait, I am blessed - so blessed.

And the feeling of bringing Irfan home - I miss that moment too. We are strangers still to each other and I was so looking forward to knowing him. Now, Irfan can see me, and he knows I am his mother. How do I know that? For he has started to reject strangers and only be silent and comfortable in the cuddles of his mummy. Me. And him acknowledging my presence is another best gift I ever asked for.

Pardon me my readers, if all your read is so much about Irfan. But I hope you do understand, since 1st may 2007 - my life was no longer about me or my husband. Our lives has now become about Irfan. All we speak and all we do are about or for Irfan. I cannot live a moment without him, I took his pictures everyday and saved them in folders I've categorized in dates I took them, I video cam his every moment and speech, I breastfed him every time he is hungry, I slept by his side each night - our faces apart by a mere a finger, I kiss him at least a hundred times a day, I miss him terribly when he sleeps, I logged on my friendster account to view my son's pics all the time and commented on how beautiful this baby is, and when my husband reach my computer screen to view who I was referring to, undoubtly it is his son. He calls me crazy for that.

I am obsessed with Irfan, and like my husband, I wanted the best in life for him. Until he gets the best, I couldn't rest. I cannot resist him, and though all the days since he arrived was well captured and remembered, I still miss those early days. How time flies so fast, and soon one day, he will off marrying his perfect partner in life. And still, I think, regardless of how old he may be, to me, he is still my baby boy. The one I nurse, the one I gave birth to, and the one I'd do anything for. I hope, he understands this motherly love I have for him, and he will love me just as much.

Daniel Irfan, my love...
I am sorry...

if the nappy I put on you wasn't the perfect fit, if the bunny wrap I wrap you with was not always so comfortable, if I was a second late to reach your side when you cried for me, if I dress you up in clothes you may not like, if I irritate you at time with my hundred kisses (which I could not help myself with), if I couldn't sing you a melodious lullaby, if I am not around for every second you open your eyes, for my son.. I have tried my best and even if someone tell me there is a million other things I need to know to being your perfect mom, believe me, I am most willing to learn.

To my friends who are pregnant, I would just like to say that it is the most magical moment of your life to be blessed with a life in your very self, and to feels his/her movements and seeing your tummy develop over 9 months, it is the most beautiful sight. Every woman is beautiful, but she is most beautiful when she is pregnant. I miss being pregnant, every bit of it, the pleasurable and the complaints. And I look forward to be pregnant again, when Allah finally decides to give me another - healthy and beautiful one.

2007-07-07T07:21:00.000-07:00

A stranger once came up to me, and said I was so beautiful. Today I woke up to same stranger every morning.

And every morning, he said to me, hello beautiful.

Now that we have bub, every morning he said, good morning my babies! That's my husband.

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. My husband, to me, is handsome la! My son - even more handsome!
Sorry husband to break this to you. You're now second in my heart. First place - you know who lah..

2007-07-06T07:19:00.000-07:00

Two years ago, I was always moving around,either rushing from appointments to another or waiting along at the airport for my flight overseas for business. Then I always had a stylish handbag (with a mobile phone, cosmetics kits, purse and palm top in it) and a labtop everywhere I go. I cannot help myself to work. On weekends when I don't have to enter office (though sometime I do), I spent the whole day of 12 hours tutoring from home to home. Teaching is a passion - and I simply love children. All these took place from when I turn 18 till I got married at 20. That was how my youth was spent.

Today, I've packed away those business suits, no longer carry a labtop wherever I go, and in my bag are nappies, towel, baby pilchers, extra baby wear and my purse. My husband choose not to hold a wallet, as he rather have me handle the finance entirely. And most of the time, I couldn't care less if our mobile phone is brought along or left at home. Unless, of course, I am expecting an emergency call.

Amazing back in those days how mobile phone bills raised ceiling high easily with the thousands sms I sent, and now I have trouble finishing a $30 monthly credit on my phone. How last time, you took advantage of the incoming free calls and was always chatting with someone every other time but now, the ringing of mobile phone I couldn't care less to answer. And sometimes wish, no one will call me or Paul.

The day I accepted a proposal from this Australian is the point of my life graph, where everything takes a different direction. I knew what is on this path of life I chose, and I was confident, giving up the fun lifestyle of modern career woman, was going to be worth it. I was happy where I was back then - having a good career at mere 18 and was traveling the world (on paid expenses mind you) before I hit 20. My life was absolutely fine, without a husband and without a son.

I lived fine without Irfan back then, but now since Irfan came, I don't think I can ever be fine without him.

Marriage is a beautiful union. They say love comes when you least expect it, and love gives you the happiness that no money in the world can buy. True. I felt what it feels to love and be in love, to be so secured in a relationship that your husband is always by your side, to be so blessed with a family.

My friends are slowly getting married, one after another. I wish them all the best for the mosque they have built, and may their lives also be filled with bundles of joy in near future. Looking their wedding photos and the happiness in their eyes, reminded me so much of what it felt on 19 November 2005 - when I got married. That moment was one of the best in my life. For those who have not yet seen the wedding photos, here they are. The difference is now, we are no longer pengantin baru, but pengantin lama... tapi belum veteran lagi. :)

And 18 months later - comes our precious bundle of joy. Daniel Irfan Parker, who have recently labelled as talkative or banyak songeh. View his video in my precious entry.

2007-07-04T18:18:00.002-07:00

No, no pictures this time, I've got something better. Here is a videoclip of my dear Irfan speak. He already started to speak the baby language weeks ago, now we finally got it on video. Paul & I smiled each time we looked at it, and I am sure you will too. My son is 64 days old today. 2 months passed so fast and just see for yourself, how much this baby has grown.

Shereen, thank you for your comment darl. I look forward to see you when I get to Singapore. Would love to know you better and thank you for reading my blog.

2007-07-02T05:00:00.000-07:00

I am seriously not joking when I say this baby is a blessing. For starters, he sleeps so well at night since the day we brought him home, that Paul and I never complained of being sleep deprived. Secondly, he is so healthy and never fall sick - thus we are never worried about his health. Well, they say breastfed babies are usually very healthy. What can be more satisfying that to see our growing baby boy starting to smile, respond and interact. I have been consuming some fish oil tablets which is high in Omega-3 for Irfan's healthy brain development and intelligence boost. Insyallah he will be a smart son of mine in future. Just like his daddy.

People complaint how newborns or babies change so much of their lives. Don't get me wrong, I do agree with them. My life for instance, has drastically change. Things that you plan to do, no longer follows your schedule. It follows the routine of your child, on when he is awake or when he gives u your "alone" time if he sleeps. I set myself stuff to do each day, but can never predict what time it can be done. When Irfan is sound asleep, that's when I start doing my stuff and hopefully complete it by the time, Irfan and I snuggle for our night sleep. And so far, everything is organised as plan. When I say Irfan is such a good boy and maybe different, I maybe right. He sleeps on long-haul flights and what's more amazing is that he sleeps through movies too. Believe it or not, Paul & I went to the movies with Irfan and I would proudly claimed, we have no problems. They didn't specify if you can or cannot bring in babies to the cinema and I wouldn't abandon Irfan into the care of someone else, just to watch some movies. But last fortnight, the three of us caught the movie Fantastic 4 and it was fantastic. Then, just earlier today, we watched Transformers. Irfan sleeps through the loud noise, easy. Transformers movies is a 2 thumbs up by the way - its your loss to miss it. I reckoned it should hit #1 in the Box Office. Next plan is to watch Harry Porter sometime this July. I am confident, Irfan, my baby boy will be a good baby as always. See, I am blessed.

I met a wonderful lady by the nick of Venus through friendster. Her real name is Sherin. Like me, she is a Singaporen who married to an Australian and migrated to Australia (Perth), as well as blessed with a beautiful baby girl who is 18 months now. We met last year through friendster and she was always sending me messages of encouragement and well wishes from the time Elman is gone, and Irfan is here. And now that her company has been posting her in Melbourne for a couple of days, we finally caught up with each other. She is indeed a wonderful friend, as wonderful as she already is online. We had a good time, just chatting away of course mostly of motherhood now that we are both mothers. I am not sure when we'll see each other again now that we are leaving for Singapore permanently. But Sherin, keep in touch no matter what and please ring me each time you return to Singapore for your annual family visit. And update more of your baby girl photos, will you? Here is her picture with Irfan. And by the way, she said Irfan looks so much like Paul.

Isn't it interesting - how my circle of friends have expanded through the world of friendster and blogging ? I didn't felt alone like I used to when I first migrated. Though most new friends, are those I never met before, but their messages and comments have always been appreciated and make my day! With that mention, to you all, my friends on friendster, thank you.

One day, last few weeks, a lady called Erna O'dell happened to stumble of my profile on friendster on her brother's labtop. She does not have an account on her own, but through some ways, she found my email address and she sent an email to me introducing herself. Till today, I have not seen her though since her first email, we have exchanged emails and speak regularly on MSN. But though we have not meet eye to eye, this lady has so much in common with me. So much that it shocked me in the beginning, then makes me feel even more not alone, when you have someone in the exact same boat as you. There are so many more things to share, and she has been my close friend now. (if she may not have realized) and her friendship derived from friendster. And to her beautiful heart and being my friend, is another reason I am thankful for.

You see, she is in her mid-twenties, which is as young as I am. She is a Malay Singaporean who married a Caucasian Australian, have a beautiful son, Salleh Michael O'Dell who is 10 months old now, and lived in Australia. She went through Caesarean giving birth to Salleh, her husband is a Muslim before they were married, and she is a housewife like me. When we speak more of our lives, the things she face being married with a Caucasian and being pregnant in a foreign land, bringing up a Muslim son in the Australian society, the feeling of migration, etc etc are exactly what I am facing, encounter and feel. I am not alone. I have her, to listen and to share. Once, when I told her about the love I've lost, she told me not to cry. And her console, makes me imagine that if she were to be beside me, she will wipe that tears of mine.

Thank you Erna sweetheart. Thank you for the very first email you sent that sparked off this beautiful friendship, one of the best I ever had. It was only last month when we are strangers, and now, we are close friends. I look forward to see your darling Salleh and pass on kisses to him for me, each and every day.

I have not asked her permission to put this up, but I really want all who read to know this lady with a very beautiful heart and a beautiful son.
Did I already mention she has a beautiful son? He really is!

2007-06-28T02:20:00.000-07:00

I am a funny person you know. I put up as many Irfan's pictures, and I looked at it so many times on my computer when Irfan's is asleep. Seriously, I miss Irfan when he is asleep. Babies get tired much easily so after 2 hours of being awake and playing, they only want to be fed and put to sleep again. Irfan is sleeping about 15 hours a day so when he is asleep, I wish he is awake. At times, when he is awake, he needs attention, then I wish he goes back to sleep. Hehe.

Umar, since you always wear pink and wishes to see Irfan in one, this is the best I can do. Irfan in his pink bunny wrap. I don't have outfits in girlie colors ok! But to me, doesn't really matter what colors he wears. Except, pink and blue clearly differentiate boy and girl. So later on, when my daughter comes along, and both their clothes of various colors, it could be difficult telling which is who's.
My son now poo once in 2 days. According to the doctor, that is normal and healthy. We still have quite a load of nappies of pee still. Irfan sleeps with me every night, and it's comforting to see him snuggle up next to me. Very cute, and now I think I finally get the point in my head, and I am a mother. And that, my son is here by my side. He is growing up so fast, and everyone on the street loves looking and asking about him. Makes me a proud mom, as always.My husband is cooking tonight as the chef is serving his last week at work. I got one other staff on duty as I doubt it will be busy tonight. Like I mentioned before, it's winter. Like everyone, I too rather stay home. I am supposed to list the furniture and car for sale on the website and Ebay which is not done. Been rather slack today. I need to get them done tomorrow for sure. Also, need to clean and vacuum the house, and I did some printing jobs to promote the new Winter Menu. We still got 2 months here, so I was hoping to collect as much money within next 2 months to bring back more to Singapore on top of the money we get from the business sale. We have 6 bank accounts here in Australia inclusive of 2 business accounts, 2 credit cards and 2 personal ones. I need to close these accounts by next month. What else? Hmmm, need to arrange to send the coffee table & dishwasher to the farm for Mother Rae and Dad Desmond. Theirs was not working well, and since our dishwasher is still in excellent condition, we'll send it to them. Question is: How to go back farm after we sell our car? Maybe borrow Sandi's car I guess!

I am waiting on July to check once more with the ICA Singapore with regards to Paul's Singapore Permanent Resident Application status because I want him to get a job as a JC Maths Lecturer/Teacher with MOE as soon as we arrived in Singapore. I need Paul's CPF to start up and running in order for me to apply for HDB. CPF, in other words called Superannuation here, can be transferred from Australia to Singapore. That would even make things better because we can use his Superannuation as part of the deposit for our Singapore HDB which means less liquid cash.

Ok enough blabbering tonight. I got so many clothes to fold. My husband has been doing the washing - wash after wash and I am very far behind him in keeping up with the pile of clothes to fold. Irfan just went to bed, I should be doing so too. Still got much errands and paperwork to do. I am a housewife, but still working at home! Singapore, we'll be back soon....

2007-06-27T06:29:00.000-07:00

The business is sold. When my husband left the engineering field last year, we decided to start some business of our own and we bought a restaurant. There were ups & downs to handling business, not to mention staff and paperwork. But we are glad that the last one year, we worked for ourselves, worked so much less too. It's great especially now that bub is here, so everyday of our lives since he was born, is spent mostly with him. We didn't miss his first smile, or first laugh and we enjoy every moment he is here.

My chef once mentioned to me that he knew a couple of F&B business for sale yet after many years, still not sold. We were worried at first if ours weren't going to. But after 10 days of listing it, we sold it. We were lucky I would say, but at the same time, I was once after all a sales & marketing professional before marriage, so it seems I haven't lose that magical touch of selling. We got it sold at a price we wanted and with that profit, we can start anything we want in Singapore as well as making the deposits of our new home.

The restaurant was taken over by an Asian lady who will be making security deposit next week as we sign over the legal papers of changeover, and full settlement of the balance 90% is due in 60 days from July 1st. We are left with 2 months to trade before we officially hand over the keys to the business and apartment to its new owner. After that 2 months is complete, hopefully my husband's PR will too. Then we be busy booking our one way ticket and set off to go.

In the meantime, the annual tax return is due soon this month. The changeover of all licenses and utilities, the packing up, selling the car and the furniture & making our last trip to the farm to meet our in-laws. I knew they will be missing us greatly but the one thing good about them, they are always very supportive. They have confidence Singapore is a very educated place for bub in future, and as grandparents, they want the best for Irfan which we do too. But I'll definitely be missing them. Paul & I commit ourselves to return to visit them at least twice a year, Easter & Christmas. Last 2 years, we always gather for Christmas and open up the presents by the Xmas tree. Every year I make sure we will. And now that Irfan is here, we are excited to see what are the presents for him for his first Christmas!

Of course, be missing our beloved sister, Sandi Parker. She has been visiting us every fortnight to catch up with the development of Irfan. As family, she is one of the most important people in Irfan's life and he has got to know her as he grows up.I hated this country - for many reasonable reasons.The weather sucks. Now that we are stuck in winter for the next 3 months, today's recorded temperature is 10 degrees day and 5 degrees at night, accompanied with rain. It has been raining since yesterday night till tonight as I typed this entry and we have not seen the sun at all. Winter can be depressing you know. Business tonight was quiet as well - and I understand due to this kind of weather, wet and cold, I too would rather stay home. Another reason is the cleanliness. There is vandalism and graffiti everywhere. This seem to be an unsolvable problem here and it is getting out of control. Most buildings, tracks, path are vandalised badly. So prominent that it looks so ugly. And roadsides, footpaths are not as clean as Singapore. Litter is everywhere here. I never come across a road-sweeper before here. We, in Singapore, should start appreciating the existence of these humble workers for the things they do that make our environment a pleasant place to live in. You may think that don't affect you, but trust me, cleanliness outside your own home, does matter! Next comes the poor public transport. The trains comes every 15 minutes, and when it does, all cars on the road had to stop in its path. The buses comes every 1 hour and stops at 7 pm. However, there was this one I waited for a bus from 5 pm and until 7 pm, it still didn't arrive. From then on, I hated the bus service. Also would like to add, people here kept committing suicide by jumping on train tracks, and this causes delay or the train service for that line to be suspended the whole day - causing inconvenience to other commuters. The taxi rides, not to mention, are so expensive. A half an hour ride to the airport from our house cost A$80. No thanks!

I can seriously go on and on about the things that put me off, especially malls and shops close at 5 pm on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays & Sundays. So save your money to shop on the rest of the week. So knowing I can finally come back home to Singapore - it makes me over the moon. If you hate Singapore, I have no comment to add. Now that I have lived in a foreign country, it makes me more appreciate of home. Real Home.

Yes I know I owe my readers and friends pictures of Irfan. Good news is I found the charger and now my camera is back to work. I have been taking some pictures earlier and hope you like his pictures. I would say he look so much different now, and most of you will agree with me.

Based on his last check up, my handsome baby boy is now 4.8 kilos and 57.5 cm long. As usual, healthy and strong. He loves opening his eyes much wider now, always curious to see his surroundings, wants to play more and sleep less, and talks a lot. Seriously a lot. I was told he can see us vividly now, so... forgive Irfan if he cries in your cuddle. He only has his parents to hang out with each day, so other people are complete strangers to him. Here are some of his pictures. And if you would like to print them, and place them under your pillow as you sleep, you may. :) ** Kidding **
Tomorrow is mid week. Time flies fast. Daniel Irfan is now 8 weeks old. See... time flies really fast doesn't it, and I am trying my best to keep up with it. I will be sleeping all smiles tonight, with Irfan by my side, as I imagined what a wonderful life it will be in Singapore for my beloved husband, myself and my miracle - my son.

PS: The "buai-buai" given by someone for Irfan last week - well, sorry let's just say it didn't work out with Irfan. But I appreciate it anyway. Shall keep for my next bub !

2007-06-21T00:52:00.000-07:00

Just to warn others, this entry is without any pictures. Not that we are tired of snapping our beloved ehem ehem, but my battery for my digital camera has gone low and silly of me, not remembering where I misplaced the charger for that. *still looking* I promised more pictures now that Irfan is 7 weeks 3 days old today.

We went to see my GP today. I first met Dr Kathryn Degaris from Brighton Clinic the night I lost Elman at the Sandringham Hospital. And that day, as she realised how devastated I was, she looked me in the eye and said, please let me be your GP for your next pregnancy and I will ensure this won't happen. I trusted her then, and I am glad I did.

She overlooks my general health from that point on, and ensuring that I am recovering well physically and emotionally after Elman and preparing my body for the next pregnancy. And, I hit bull's eye, when I got Irfan. And she was so protective over his pregnancy so were all her other staff. We went for lots of check up with her, and she arranged for a lot of scan and monitor them well. She made sure everything is going in order and when we realised Irfan was getting big than normal babies, she recommended Caesarean and I agreed with her. And when I had Irfan, she came to the hospital and checked me at my ward. And then on, we met her several times again as she monitors my health recovering from Caesarean and Irfan's health & development. Undeniably, she is the perfect doctor - and I am so lucky I got her.

Today as we met her, for the last time, since we due to migrate soon, I can tell how happy she was for what I have achieved. A healthy baby and my dreams once shattered, she has relived them. I owe her too many thanks for assisting us in being blessed with Irfan and I hope, God will always protect her. Her bubbly and friendly approach will always be missed. Though she wished us the best and bid us farewell, I wished someday I see her again.

Thank you, Dr Kathryn. You gave us hope and you made it happened. You are special in our hearts, especially in mine. And her other staff, was going goo-goo-gaa-gaa over Irfan and insisted that he is a gorgeous baby. And as we told them our plans to leave for Singapore, they were a little sad not seeing this lil guy anymore and last I heard they say, "Daniel, we knew you before you were born. Way before"... well.. yes u did.

And Daniel Irfan Parker is a healthy baby as claimed by Dr. Kathryn Degaris. I am healthy too... except I have a slight problems, I lost appetite for 3 weeks before when I had fever and I lost weight drastically. 5 kilos to be exact and I should start being a glutton to gain weight again. Because loss of weight can affect my breastmilk production and it wouldn't be fair on Irfan, would it?

I went up to the farm last weekend. For those who wouldn't know, the farm is where my in-laws resided with their 400 cows (they are dairy farmers) and located far out in the countryside. As usual, fantastic hospitality. As soon as we arrived on their porch, we have them coming over to give us an extremely huge hug and kisses. That's my in laws. Funny, how sometimes strangers treat you like family and family treat you like strangers. Anyways, Mother Rae was meant to take me out shopping to Echuca town but she fell sick the next day. And 2 days after that which is today, she has undergone a major surgery and is now recovering well in the hospital. We have got to see her before we leave.

Leave for where, you might wonder! Good news is insyaallah, we are migrating back to Singapore by August this year which is only 2 months from now. Hopefully, as confirmation comes next week, a Mauritian lady will be taking over the business sometime end month and as settlement completed, we are packing our bags and set to go. Go HOME.
But there is many things to get done before migration. A long list indeed and I give myself a month to have that settled.

Irfan, my lovely baby boy is now 7 weeks 3 days old. How time flies! It feels as if it was yesterday when I am still pregnant with him. And today he is in front of my eyes 24/7. He talks so much more now, like nagging sometimes with the baby language. And many times I have told him to keep his saliva in his mouth, yet he insists to make bubbles with them. And he smiles at me now and winks at strangers (cheeky boy!) Overall, he is healthy and tomorrow is his regular fortnightly check up with the Maternity Healthy Nurse and we will know how much heavier and taller my son has grown since 2 weeks ago. He sleeps so well, and Paul & I only get up once a night to change his nappy. And speaking of nappies, it is much lesser in quantity and he only poo once a day (normal, not too worry). I am counting the days when he gets to 3 months and we can play will him all day.

Also, a nice lady (waitress) from an Asian restaurant we frequently dine, gave us a gift. It is the "buai-buai" that our grandmothers and mothers use to dodoi us to sleep. The one that is hanged from the ceiling and a baby is placed in the cloth. (i'll put up a pic of it when its ready and when I find that battery charger!) So traditional and I would love to see if Irfan likes it.

It's June 30th soon and over here, we need to submit tax return ourselves. So I am preparing so much documents for the business, Paul's and mine tax return to submit to our accountant. And next year, I can finally not have to do this anymore cos it is hassle.

I'll have to mess up this house or clean it if I have to - to find back that charger. Cos it is only fair, I put Irfan growing pictures. Tell me, you wouldn't want to miss his 7th week pictures would you? I know huh, I am such a Kiasu & Kanchiong Mother!

2007-06-11T23:13:00.000-07:00

My growing baby boy changes every day. His features became more distinctive and permanent. And he certainly look different that how we first brought him home. His hair has start to fall off, to give way to his permanent hair of permanent color to start growing. His eyes have start to lose its blueness and now very much just grey. He start talking more, becoming more alert, and interactive. I am not sure if he can already see faces or just shadows - but very soon, he should be able to see colours and more importantly, recognise his parents. Me and Paul ! Maybe by the time he can recognize his parents, he might not like to be carried by strangers.
The restaurant if up for sale. (Any interested buyers may contact me) ;) ... Hopefully we clinched a buyer in a month's time, and settlement usually take 60 days after. Once that is confirmed, then we can give out a fixed date of our permanent migration into Singapore. Though we are still awaiting results for Paul's PR application status. It is said to take about as fast as 1 month to 3 months. So by next month, hopefully we'll know the results and Paul can then apply with MOE to obtain the teaching job, and we can go ahead with selecting our HDB Apartment.

I will definitely miss this restaurant and the country (regardless how much I hate this place) but I am looking forward to Singapore. Life will be great then, our own place, maybe a small family car, living my days with my beloved son and husband, where family is near, and where my career and husband's can flourished. A perfect dream come true. And once we got all that settled down, I was hoping for another offspring in early 2009. Preferably a girl.

Tomorrow, I will be visiting my ex-colleagues at an office I used to work at during 6 months of my pregnancy - Pets Paradise. I used to be the Asst Manager there under Purchasing Department, and when I left 5 weeks before Irfan come along, they gave presents, wished me the best and was hoping to see Irfan soon. And since we were so busy travelling during first month ( to Singapore and to the country to see in-laws ) finally they are seeing him. They told me before about joining them as part time first and full time when I am ready. Initially I thought I might work again cos I love working. But since Irfan come along, it's not worth. Cos I want to see my son grow and change each day without missing his first smile, his laugh, etc etc and at the same time, I am breastfeeding so my son needs me to grow.Daniel Irfan turns 6 weeks old today. He also start playing with his saliva. Hehe. Another 6 weeks time, he will be 3 months, smilling and playing with us. I can't wait for that. And who knows, by 6 months, my son will be crawling around the house. And once he start crawling, Paul said we have to place him in a cot so he doesn't wander around at night and disappears if he sleeps on the bed.

Business has been good last week and hopefully as good this week. Next 3 months will be hectic to prepare for migration. I can already tell.

2007-06-06T18:52:00.001-07:00

A baby is a blessing. With Daniel Irfan in our lives, we feel most blessed. He is everything we wanted. If there are so many people in love with Irfan, no one loves him more than his parents, no one care for him more than Paul and me. Especially me - who carried him in my own tummy for 9 months, through those morning sickness and painful joint aches, and eventually even cut through myself to have him out safe and sound. I fed him the healthiest food which made him big and healthy. It's not considered as a trouble, but pregnancy isn't that easy especially since that takes up 3/4 of a year. So if you are a parent, going through exactly what I've been through - would it every cross your mind to ever hurt your own child, your own flesh and blood, your own offspring? If I am such a mother, I don't deserve Irfan, I don't deserve to live.
Many times I have mentioned, my husband is my life and my son is my beating heart and without them, life would be pointless. No one else in this world matters to me more than them, my very own family which I've built. My love for them is unconditional, and irreplaceable. And whatever is within my power, I only intend to provide and give them the best in life.I know many people would love Irfan, especially my extended family, but that does not mean that you can get your hands into my family affairs and decide to control the way Irfan is brought up to the way you want. I feel like I am a adult, I chose to get married, choose to bear a child and choose to start my own family. Due to this, I feel, regardless whom you are, I appreciate you no longer make decisions for me.

Our holidays in Singapore was partly pleasurable, and mostly unpleasant. The good news, Irfan citizenship is on the way to Melbourne, then we can apply HLE and come back maybe in August to select a HDB on our own. Paul and I are already enthusiastic about decor and furniture for our new place. And thank god, we don't have differences in that respective.

They say the people who can hurt you the most isn't your worst enemy, but the one closest to you.

** Due to some complains, this paragraph is deleted. :) **

On a different note, Irfan went for his usual check-up this week. He actually have to go every week or fortnight to see his Maternity Health Nurse who keep track of his growth. If you guys didn't realize yet, my son has start to talk - the baby language. He made those noises as if talking to communicate. We don't understand but we love hearing how happy Irfan is. His last check up was before we went Singapore exactly 3 weeks ago - today he has grown 540 grams heavier to be 4.425 kg, has grown 2 cm longer to be 55.5 cm, and his head circumference is growing 2 cm bigger to be 38 cm. They checked his strength - my son can hold up his head whilst he sit down. stand up and when he is on his tummy. They check if he reacts to sound - by using a bell- and he passed that one. And of course, the nurse too realized he has started to talk.

Healthy and happy Irfan - makes us happy parents. That's all that matters, my family.

2007-06-06T00:46:00.000-07:00

1st June 2007 is the day when my most beloved, Daniel Irfan turned 1 month old. Time flies before we realized and my son is now a big boy. Happy 1st Birthday Irfan - Mommy & Daddy loves you to bits.

I had small gatherings at my house and I appreciate those who came on Saturday evening and Sunday, family, friends and classmates. It was small gatherings but you are selective special people I would like to show my son to. And thank you so much for the presents (which was unnecessary), the time and for saying Irfan is cute! Hehehe...

And here are our guests. Thank you for coming. Truly appreciate it. Next time Irfan have a party is when he turned 1 year old. Though I was planning for his cukur rambut and sunat end of this year. See how that goes.

She is Wati, a friend I met through friendster, she and her boyfriend came to see Irfan on Saturday evening. They were among the first to come and I hope Wati, you have had a great time with Irfan. And hope you enjoy the food. :)

And my beloved ex-classmates and ex-schoolmates came too. Thank you. Fadziah, cute kan anak aku macam mak dia? And Jaja, though you were sleepy as we called to say hi. That's alright. As promised, I'll get Irfan to call u when he can speak. Hehehe.

More family came too.

Another beautiful girl I've met thru Friendster came on Sunday to see Irfan - she has always admitted to be Ifan's stalker and thanks love for those gifts you got him. I hope you fall in love more now that you've seen Mr. Heartbreaker. We hope to see you again soon, Aunt Nadya!

On Monday, met up with my aunties and more cousins at Seoul Garden, Tampines Mall. They bought even more presents and we spent a good 3 hours at Seoul Garden eating. Hey kata buffet, bayar sekali, makan banyak kali. Hehe. Thank you for everything!
And now Paul, myself and Irfan are back in Australia. We arrived home at 3 am yesterday morning. It was a great flight as Irfan always sleeps on long journey. See how good a baby he has been? So tired, luggage still unpacked and this house is in a mess. I need to organise many stuff tomorrow once I am done with blog.

Thank you to those who send us off at the airport. :)

Till we see all of you again in October, when Irfan will be 5 months old.
Lots of Love, Halim, Leza & Irfan

2007-05-31T07:04:00.000-07:00

How can u resist him? All my family members can't.

Yes, he is wearing pink. But it's a boy. Hehe. See how wide his eyes open, yes in this picture, he is fully fed and not sleepy. So is busy turning around, very curious with his surroundings, though I think what he sees at 30 days old, are just shadows. Explains why he doesn't recognise us. Heh.

We spent 5 hours at ICA last Wednesday, applying for Paul's PR and Irfan's citizenship.. Phew, that's done. Irfan is approved anyways and have paid $160. Paul's PR takes longer to be processed and pay upon approval. With a degree and being married to me (a Singapore citizen) I hope Paul's PR don't get held up. We wait for results soon.

Today, I had a great hair-cut at Jean Yip. Trim a few inches off and my hair is soft as well. Pardon me, being excited about this as I have been to caught up with work, pregnancy, birth and Irfan in Australia that I have not made it to the hairdresser for so long. Serious. Well anyways the hairdresser was promoting 'rebonding'. Sorry la, I am a breastfeeding mother so wouldn't want to be at a hairdressers' breastfeeding. :)

It's the great Singapore sale. My husband is becoming more like me - maybe I influence him too much. He bought so many shoes, as much as me. We got some good bargains and Singapore is so so cheap. I rather spend my money here than shop in Australia. Over here, u get more for the same amount. $$$

This is my grandmother, who is now Irfan's great grandmother. She is 70 years old. Irfan is the start of the next generation for both Paul and my side. He is the FIRST great grandchild, FIRST grandchild to my parents, uncles and aunts, and FIRST nephew to my cousins. And here are pictures of the family, going go-go-ga-ga over Irfan.

Uncle Elfie, Auntie Yani & Mummy (and Irfan)
Auntie Miera & Irfan

Aunt Sery (again) & Irfan

Grandmother Ros & Irfan

Uncle Elfie (again) & Irfan

Thank you for the gifts and money - please next time don't trouble yourself.
Thanks for loving Irfan.

2007-05-30T04:23:00.000-07:00

My son did grab some attention whilst in Singapore. We have so many people looking into our stroller, hoping to get a glimpse of Irfan, of course after realising that Paul is a caucasian and I am a Malay - and that we are a couple. People past smiled at Irfan, some schoolkids whisper among themselves ... ' Oh, what a really cute baby'. The other adults came up to us, asked many questions about Irfan - his name, his race, his age etc etc and commented how lucky we are for being blessed such a beautiful bub.

Yes, I know and I am so grateful. So grateful that Irfan is a like the most guarded diamond in the world. Irfn, a always, you make mummy so proud. Of course, the cousins were over the moon over Irfan arrival into Singapore. Some of them already came over and more coming over the weekend. Photos taken with my cousins who are now uncles and aunt. So, Aunt Sery & Uncle Boy Boy. Congratulations for the promotion. Hehe.

Sery, Boy Boy & Me (and Irfan)

My mother bought so many stuff for Irfan just so he feels very comfortable - nappies, towels, bath basin, sleeping accessories and even a play pen. Now sure if he knows what to do in a play pen. But it sure comes in handy in future to keep him occupied. Enjoying yourself, Irfan sayang ?

And if you guys are looking out for more of Irfan's pictures, here are some to satisfy your cravings! Enjoy...

2007-05-28T23:54:00.000-07:00

We are all here in Singapore now - arrived this morning at 0130 hours EK405. For starters, it was an excellent a trip. Food was good, service was excellent and what makes the journey most pleasurable is Irfan. He was such a good baby - there are other babies on board but they all cried. I pitied their parents who looked so stressful trying to calm their babies down and not wanting to annoy the other passengers. And when I looked at Irfan, he was quiet and sound asleep. What a good mommy's boy! Please behave just as well on the way back yah.

Mommy & Daddy dotes on Irfan. Each time, Irfan made a sad face as if he is about to wail, Mom especially would be rushing to his side and start to console him, carrying him and kissing him always. It's the first grand child and great grandchild can expect how excited Irfan got the family to be. Well.. we had some sleep till 7 am and headed to Compasspoint to have some breakfast and a little shopping. Charles & Keith sale was good - bought 2 pairs of heels and I am proud of myself.

Now we are all at home resting. My dad is working today. Paul and I have an appointment with a HDB Consultant who is advising us on buying a HDB in Singapore. That appointment at 7 pm and my husband wanted to go Mustafa Centre tonight after that meeting.

My son is placed on a pram and Singapore is a very hot country. Instead of the usual thick wraps, Irfan goes around in a sleeveless singlet and his diapers. I hope he is cool enough. We have to wrap him still though so he sleeps longer, so we had him wrapped tight and he sleeps in a cool air-conditioned room.

I hope he get used to weather here especially since his parents are migrating here soon. Not much plans today, more rest since we just arrived. Tommorrow is when I headed to ICA, to apply Paul's PR and Irfan's citizenship/ passport.

I update pictures soon.

2007-05-26T22:47:00.000-07:00

After 3 days, finally the fever went away.

But what it left me, was sore shoulders and terrible headache. So I got hubby to take me to the mall and I had a neck & shoulder massage.It was excruciating pain maybe cos my shoulder muscles are really tense. Seriously, caesarean was less painful. But it was effective.

After 15 minutes, which I paid $20, the muscles were relaxed and my headache was instantly gone. I felt fresh and healthy, and of course content. For such a small price, massages do wonders. I wanted to give them more money for I appreciated the massage which took my killing headache away but then I thought, I might as well become their regular. Every month, that is.

Luggage for three is packed, house cleaned spick & span, business proper handover, well.. we are set to travel. Got everything ready and we are so excited to return Singapore. Hubby is more excited than me though cos he has not been back to Singapore for 1.5 yrs while I returned 3 months ago. Mother has prepared everything for us three to be comfortable at home. And she is as excited to see us too. My husband and I (and Irfan) are attending a seminar on Sat 2nd June at Stamford Hotel in Singapore - "How your baby can read before he can talk?" Interesting. Seats confirmed and we would love to find out. Irfan has quite an incredible strength for a newborn as commented by nurses and GP here, well that is because Paul has been making him exercise an hour a day. I wouldn't be surprised if Irfan can crawl as early as 4 months and walk by 7th. And when I say walking, I mean toilet-trained as well.

A regular customer came in yesterday with their daughter Ruby who is 7.5 months now. We knew this couple when the wife was about to "pop" and today that newborn is a big little infant. Ruby is 7 kilos now. And I was wondering how heavy will Irfan be since he is already 4.2 kg at 25 days old!

I was playing around with Irfan yesterday and I sang him some prayer songs and the Azan Raya. And he looked at me, with his wide grey blue eyes and flash a smile. A wide smile with no teeth. How cute! Yes, darling, mummy thinks you are so adorable and beautiful, and I am sure the family in Singapore will agree with me. Amazing how his features changed every day, and he looks different from how he look like when we first brought him home. He is bigger, rounder and heavier for starters. Then his features from "anak emak" becomes "daddy's boy" now. Only hair colour is mine, but still, each day that dark hair gets brighter and brighter too. His skin has lose its newborn redness, and it appeared whiter than ever, like daddy. It's daddy's eyes, mouth and ears. Except you got ear lobes just like mommy. He got fat fingers too like daddy. Haii..

We are closing the restaurant for 3 days while we are gone and our staff will run it for 4 days, while we aren't around. I hope everything will be well. We got another 2 functions on Saturday 2nd June so that's a fair bit of revenue expected and I am sure my wait staff is very capable of handling the floor. After all, he is of 10 years hospitality experience. :)

Life is great here in Australia, both hubby and I don't have to work and we have quite a fair bit to spend every week from the business. But money isn't everything. Each day since I got here, I longed to return to Singapore and it's my resolution to have the entire family to migrate back to Singapore by end of this year. My husband wants to become a JC Maths Lecturer in Singapore with MOE and he wants me to stay home and bring Irfan up. I hope we'll make it.

A beautiful lady, Shereen, wrote an entry about me... http://n0tauru5.blogspot.com/ entry May 5th 2007. What she wanted to express was nicely put into words, and her creative phrase just blows me over.. "It is like every step she took, her path grew beautiful flowers..." Thank you Shereen for that entry you wrote weeks ago which I just knew about. Thank you for saying Irfan is beautiful to boot.

My life has been great, I had everything but because of that everyday I woke up in fear, fear that these best things I have in life will be taken away from me. Like how I lost my first son, Elman. I pray to Allah to thank him for everything and I hope he never separate my husband and my son from me. They are my life and beating heart. My life isn't always perfect though I wanted to think it is. God gave me reasons to be happiest, not just happy, but he gave me reasons to be devastated, not just sad. I must say I felt a stronger woman each day despite the things I go through, the depression demon I overcome, and the acceptance of another life despite losing the first.

Nadya, your entry in your blog about Irfan is nice too - thanks for putting up his picture and I am glad you love him too! Yes, thanks for the gifts you bought my heartbreaker and we will catch up soon. I'll buzz you as I land in Singapore.

I did come across a few other blogs writing about me and Irfan, and I would like to say thank you for complimenting Irfan non-stop. Like every other baby, he is just as cute and cuddly. Also, those who send me message to ask permission to have Irfan's pictures, yes please, I seriously do not mind. And I am sure, Irfan don't mind too.

Believe in what has been planned for you. Life is simple. If you are nice to people, then nice things will happen to you.

My husband promised me dinner tonight at a fancy restaurant we used to dine. Except now there will be 3 of us. I hope Irfan sleeps all the way and we can enjoy the great food the restaurant serves. It's Mediterranean food by the way.

Singapore, here we come! Soon, Irfan will have a Singapore citizenship and passport...

Here are the beloved cousins I can't wait to meet. Will officially introduce Irfan to you all which I am sure you guys are excited to meet. So tahun ni, jangan lupa duit raya for Irfan ok.

2007-05-24T00:55:00.000-07:00

We are all so excited to return to Singapore.

It's about 4 days from now.

Well.. I have not packed anything yet.

In fact, I got so much paperwork to do too and its all pending.

That's cos I have been sick last 2 days. The fever seemed to subside now.

Hopefully it goes away fully soon.

Got to issue our cheques for next week for suppliers.

Staff Payouts.

Invoice Filing.

GST Updates.

New Menu starting tomorrow, so need to program new menu in the system and print the new menu. Also, design a poster to promote it.

We got a function this Friday and next Saturday to do.

Clean the house. Again.

And pack our stuff to Singapore.

And as we all know, it is the Mid Year Sale.

So, apa lagi, shop till we drop la.

Can't wait for that.

I was hoping the currency gets better.

So we get more.

Also, in Singapore applying for husband PR, Irfan citizenship, HDB House Loan..

Meet parents, stay with them... oh, it's gonna be so much fun.

7.5 hours of flight two way trip.

Irfan, please behave ok. Like how good you always have been at home.

Paul & I get 20 kgs of check in luggage.

And Irfan have 10 kgs of check in luggage.

Woohoo.. I am bringing some clothes back home.

Cos hubby and I (and Irfan) are migrating back to Singapore.

This year.

Next time, we buy a Singapore ticket, who knows.

It will be a one way ticket.

:)

2007-05-22T23:39:00.000-07:00

Today isn't a very good day.

Its coming into Winter beginning of June and on average 13 degrees celsius every day.

Very cold. And yesterday I caught fever.

It was nearly unbearable.

My joints hurt, my shoulder aches, my head felt heavy, and it was extraordinary cold.

I got the heater up to the maximum. And I got my night gown on, with a jumper, and pants and socks and covered myself with two blankets.

This morning it felt better that it was yesterday. I am still a little feverish.
Hopefully I recover soon. I hate being sick.

And believe it or not, its the first time I have been sick since I migrated to Australia.
Usually its just sickness related to pregnancy. Other than that, my husband and I are as fit as a fiddle. Again, I hate being sick.

My son has grown so much since we first brought him home.

He settled in well and now start craving for physical touch.

I am not sure, if he knows I am his mother.

So everynight, I slept with Irfan and hug him as we sleep.

Paul took some videos of us sleeping together - Irfan and me.

Maybe I'll attached the video soon.

I have been in bed all day, and thank god I took a shower though late.

Cos that shower really freshen me up.

My darling husband hair-dried my hair after that.

And finally I can be bothered to walk around the house and use the computer.

And this house is in a mess. I should be cleaning it soon.

Irfan is crying now.

I have got to go.

Amazing how priorities have changed.

10 years with you - Siti Hajjar

2007-05-21T22:58:00.000-07:00

A reply to : http://jajazrin.blogs.friendster.com/jetaime
/2007/05/irfan.html

Yes, bestie. It has been a decade - that fast - our age is catching up with us, our lives have so much changed, our new memories adding on, yet our past never faded away.

I remembered those times, we were young, we played netball, we went to school together and we were always there for each other.

Sure, we have our squabbles and disagreements.

Times, when we never talked.

But those times are when I missed you the most.

When I see you around, and I couldn't communicate.

When I had your number, but I couldn't call.

When I miss your voice, yet I didn't speak.

Those days, we were not on good terms, were the foundation of our friendship.

Creating the pillars of strength.

That only drawn us closer.

Made us wiser.

And our friendship last forever.

This picture was 10 years ago.

This picture was 10 years after.

And they are both on my very desk in Australia.

We have changed, our lives too.

But our friendship didn't.

I love you Jaja. You, to me, are like family.

And you are now, godmother to my son, Daniel Irfan.
Congratulations.

Even if I never say, I guessed you knew.

It would definitely be you.

I know you love me like I love you.

Now, I know you'll love Irfan just as much.

Just like your own.

If anything were to happen to me someday, I knew you would always be there for him.
Like a mother would.

Thank you for the past, the present and the future.

Temporarily distance kept us apart so long.

But someday when we reunite,

It will be permanent.

I pray Allah bless and protect you.

And when someday you become a mom, I knew it will be me.

Who will love your child just the same.

This blog is dedicated to you, Irfan

2007-05-21T22:25:00.000-07:00

Finally I got the time to set up something for my son.

His life's journal in a blog, which I'll filled with endless memories for his review when he grow up.

It may not be the best but this blog seemed pretty pleasant to me. So as long as my choice of font is legible and make sense, then I hope those who read this, will somehow understand. Thank you to those who read Irfan's journal in life.

Irfan came on 1st May 2007 - 1452 Hours at Sandringham Hospital in Australia.

Weighed in at 3.8 kgs or 8 lbs 5.5 oz. That is a huge baby for a small built mother like me.

And thus, I had him through Caesarean at 39 weeks.

And my son came out...

Absolutely perfect.

Healthy in the pink of health.

Handsome and of course,

crying.

Thus I know he is fine.

The day we brought him home for the first time is unbelievable.

I can't wait to share our lives together yet I am still lost, needed to be convince, that this amazing creation upon my arms, is actually mine.

To keep, to hold, to love forever.

And his features just charmed me more each day.
His cries become music to my ears.
His existence completed Paul and my life.

Welcoming Irfan

You are mine, Irfan and we are yours.
For life. For all times.

I love you so much.

I know he does not really recognize his mother nor even knows I kissed him everyday.

Someday when he reads this blog, who knows. He will eventually appreciate.

I am a mother, and I am a proud one.

PS: To see pictures of his birth, here is the link
www.bugbitten.com/blogs/pdparker/my_blogs.html